Cuckold is a niche that gained huge popularity in the porn community in the past few years. What are the reasons for such a boost in this kind of sexual expression and viewership? Many are arguing that it is just the boredom of the same old same old and that BDSM is the new trend due to the lack of new content that could give the excitement to the viewer who’s searching for that “high” that was present with regular porn. Some of these theories might be true, but many of them are just guesses. The only thing that is a fact, is that it is popular and that many couples are engaging in this kind of behaviour.
A cuckold is a bird who is flying into other birds’ nests and is exchanging its own eggs for the eggs that are already there, thus, once hatched a cuckold would have its offspring without having to do all the nesting.
Similarly, the sexual term “cuckold” got its name, but the whole phenomenon was present since 1562 when the term “cuckqeen” appeared in English literature. It referred to the fact that the husband was the last to know about the wife’s infidelity. Today’s definition remains more or less the same, with some adjustments and add-ons.
It also refers to the old European tradition, where villagers would gather in public to humiliate the man whose wife gave birth to a child that wasn’t his. The humiliating part remained the same, but the birthing part wasn’t necessary anymore, since this has evolved into a fetish and not an act of cheating. As the legend goes, a parade was held with the man wearing antlers as a sign of his wife’s infidelity.
Today, the woman is having sex with a man that is not her husband, but it is all organised by either the wife or the husband, with the requirement that both of them agree to the act. The part where the wife organises the cuckold, is considered to be the “traditional” form of it, whereas “hot-wifing” is the opposite, where the man is the one who sets the date up and is not participating in it. He is there as a mere watcher.
So, cuckold can be described as a marriage where the man gets his pleasure as he is watching his wife have sex with another man, usually with a larger penis, since this is also a part of the whole psychological kink. The smaller penis is yet another source of his shame, besides being unable to satisfy his wife. There are many layers to the whole “seance” that is just not portrayed in porn videos, besides the acts of a man being humiliated. These are some of the reasons why cuckold has so many misunderstandings and is considered to be “kinky” and sometimes disturbing.
This kind of fetishism can be intertwined with forms of BDSM related activities such as verbal humiliation voyeurism, female dominance, denial, so on and so forth. The similarities with swinging and cuckolding might seem obvious, but there are many differences that separate the two. The main one is that there’s the absence of another woman who’s having sex with the husband and the other one is that he is not participating sexually.
The cuckold fetish goes one step deeper. The whole point why the husband is committing himself to this kind of deprecation is because he feels inadequate to fulfil his duties as a man and as a husband – to get his wife off sexually. The next step to it is the “sissification” of the husband and the feminisation of his manhood. These are all very nuanced arousal triggers that are taking place in this very different way of expressing sexual energy inside of a marriage.
As of late, porn sites are filled with this kind of content. To some, it is the novelty that is playing the main role in the surge of these fetish videos. But in real life, there are many couples who are indeed engaging in cuckolding and it seems contradictory, since introducing another partner into a marriage can seem as a sign of a problem, but it is quite the contrary. It is this forbidden land that they are threading that is giving them the spice that they are needing inside of their bedrooms. Just like swinging that has its anchors rooted in strengthening the marriage, to give it an exciting feel and to freshen it up, cuckolding has the same effect.
Many couples who are into this fetish are searching for a partner on line or through word of mouth. It is still a taboo, one that is even more taboo than bdsm or swinging so anonymity is required, but in spite of it all cuckolding is here to stay.